Do you know that how your life turns out is really all down to you?
Good choices and bad choices at various stages all contribute to who and what we are today.
I’m a big fan of education and hard work.
Neither of these did anyone any harm and personally made a difference for me from working as an engineer in shipbuilding to designing systems for a bank
This brought financial rewards, but as I’m sure you know life isn’t all about work and money.
In fact never be a slave to either of these fake gods.
Spending too much time at work is to the detriment of your real life and time with friends and family.
Similarly focusing on money causes people to lose perspective of what’s really important in life.
A couple of people I know are caught in this trap, they know the cost of everything but the value of nothing.
Their life’s are as shallow as this weeks fashion item or must-have gadget.
Quite sad really.
The only things we have that are really important is our love and our time and both should be spent wisely.
My advice, love people not things and spent time with people you love, who love you back and enhance your life.
Don’t spent your valuable time with losers, or people who drain the life out of you.
What you learn with experience is even if it’s painful, with hindsight the sooner you make the break the better and the less valuable time you waste on something that’s already fucked.
That may be a little idealistic, as the problem is often that people in a damaging one-sided relationship are too close to see that it’s destructive and holding onto it is only hurting themselves further.
It’s not necessarily even a love relationship, but any friendship which has became one-sided should be dropped.
Why did I mention this?
I was with friends at the weekend, a very one sided relationship, were he has a great life and she sucks the life out of him and has become steadily worse over the years.
After the weekends happening I’ve decided that I won’t be in her company again. That means I won’t be inviting them for dinner at mine. Nothing. I don’t have wasters in my life, not even by association.
A bit harsh?
I dont think so. Read on.
Truth is I’ve never liked this person and always wondered what she brings to the relationship. She doesn’t work, smokes at least 30 a day, drinks heavily and is a walking medicine cabinet, constantly depressed and moody, making a scene of herself and adding nothing if any value to their relationship.
Why would anyone want to hang around with someone like that?
Personally I think it’s a weakness not to have the balls to cut the garbage from your life.
I’ve been there, married to an alcoholic and stayed in the relationship longer than I should have for the sake of the children and hoping it would change.
When somewhere deep down I knew that it wouldn’t. That they would continue in their spiral of self destruction and drag me down with them until eventually I had to let go.
That hurts, divorce is a world of pain emotionally and financially. Even if you are the one who chooses it.
But hindsight is a wonderful thing and the one thing I know for absolute certainty is the sooner you make the change the better.
Get your life back, get your time back and spend it with people who make you happy.
Not long now til the new series of Game Of Thrones hits the screens.
What was I saying about getting your life back? Or death by BoxSet! 🙂