I’m sure like me, you have many songs that take you back to people and places in your life, happy times, sad times, the best and worst of times. Moments that we treasure and wish that we could live again and moments that we wish we could forget.
Sometimes, years after the event, we are getting on with our day, the radio on in the background and a song comes on that reminds us of happy times, it makes us feel good and we smile at the memories that come flooding back.
Sometimes, it’s the opposite, a song that reminds us of sad times. That takes our breath away and puts a tear in our eyes.
Sitting at work, headphones on, I just heard Stop Crying Your Heat Out by Oasis, a song that had no significance with me until the day my mum passed away just over 6 years.
It was the longest night of my life, my dad, my 4 brothers and her sisters around the bed, watching as her breathing became shallower and shallower and her life eventually faded away.
After registering the death, then popping in somewhere for breakfast, I dropped off my dad, made sure he was okay and then went to give my kids the sad news in person.
Driving up the M77 in the car alone, no longer having to be strong for dad, with tears in my eye, this song came on the radio and it was like a message from heaven.
It was if my mum was telling me to get on with life and stop crying my heart out.
A prayer for the living if you will.
I’m thinking of a friend of mine who is facing similar circumstances and I hope that she finds the solace she needs whenever that time comes.
Don’t be scared
You’ll never change what’s been and gone
May your smile
Don’t be scared
Your destiny will keep you warm
Cause all of the stars are fading away
Try not to worry
You’ll see them some day
Just take what you need
And be on your way
And stop crying your heart out.