Role Reversal?


One day around this time of year,   only 20 years ago I was helping my son to his first day at school.     He had just turned 5 and couldn’t tie his laces yet.

So we bought him shoes with Velcro fasteners as recommended by the school.

The last thing they want to do is spend time with pupils teaching them how to do stupid things like tie their laces.   That would be individual tuition and detrimental to the group so they say.

This is diametrically opposite to the fact that they have to accept and include all sorts these days,   disabled kids,  kids with personality disorders.

Are they not more detrimental to the group as a whole?

Yet they are foisted upon our kids,    the former necessitating more than their share of the teachers attention,  the latter creating disruption at every opportunity,  mostly because they don’t want to be there and aren’t getting what they want.

These days it’s all about inclusion.

“An inclusive approach reflects a move away from a deficit model which focuses on aspects of the learner as the problem, where the learner is viewed as deficient in some way. A deficit model also pays inadequate attention to factors such as social expectations, or aspects of the education system or learning environment that could be changed to enable diverse learners to participate and learn. Also, categorising an individual or a group by a single or a few characteristics may be misleading and doesn’t recognise the whole person.”

Don’t you hate that shit?

Well maybe you don’t .. in that case you are most likely a bit of a hopeless case and incapable of functioning at a high level,   where rewards are based on merit and the best excel.

A bit strong .. maybe? … Honest .. totally.

Why should my kids education suffer because someone else kids aren’t as capable?

Shouldn’t less fortunate kids with physical or mental issues be educated separately to the level they can achieve and allow the majority of kids to receive their education as expected rather than splitting the available resources on a bunch of no-hopers?

Not exactly PC .. huh?

Well fuck off if you don’t like it,   but I’m fed up including everyone,  thats not how life works.

The fact is  this small nation that we live in doesn’t have the resources to include everyone and lines need to be drawn.

I’m sick of listening to Nicola Sturgeon and her like telling us about social inclusion,  yet the reality is Scotland does not have the money to pay for this and the social systems will collapse if we leave the UK.

Seems to me that allowing everyone a vote,  has given the mediocre more of a voice than they should have and the lunatics have taken over the asylum.

Anyway .. I digress from my original subject ..

My son is well out of school and university and has started a career in IT ,  even my youngest daughter is now at university and on her career path.

The point of this story was that at lunchtime,  I was out buying shoes for my dad,   81 years young and still out and about every day.

But he had the stroke 10 years ago and can’t bend down to tie his laces,   but he can just about manage Velcro fasteners.

There’s a certain irony of being at the level where you can’t tie your laces,  where the roles are reversed from father to son.

That’s my definition of middle age,  when your kids are grown up and no longer need you, but your parents are on the decline and need you more than ever.










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