The night was certainly full of terrors in the first episode of the new Game Of Thrones last night.
The character Melisandre is revealed to be an ancient hag using her magic to appear like a beautiful woman.
An interesting article below on last nights final scene. The article asks is this not what all women do with their make-up and treatments to appear younger than they are?
Melisandre is obviously an extreme case, but the sight of a naked old lady on tv was both shocking and sad. The look in her eye as she revealed herself standing naked before the camera, empty breasts and stomach drooping, her once thick glossy hair now thin and white.
The illusion of glamour.
It reminded me of someone that I used to know!
I’m not being deliberately unkind, fake tan, botox, droopy tits in a good bra, the works.
She was a good looking girl, at surface level and definitely a stunner when she was younger.
I wondered if her desperation to look younger was directly proportionate to how attractive she was in her younger day?
That because she had once been beautiful, she wanted to claw it back as much as possible.
It took a long time to see her naked and the first time I did, she cried, revealing herself hadn’t been easy for her.
As a guy, we are expected to accept our women as they are, yet simultaneously appreciate them putting on their public face, hair, makeup.
It only leads to these moments of self inflicted trauma such as these when you get to see below the mask.
I have no idea why women feel like they have to make this huge effort to look younger or more glamorous.
Not that I don’t appreciate it.
What I do know, is that this illusion is skin deep and shallow.
A new guy will often be disappointed when after initial dating, his girl reveals herself.
Make up is one thing, but the wonderbra and spandex have a lot to answer for.
It’s the hook of keeping the guy interested long enough to buy into a deal that he won’t run away from when he sees what’s really on the table.
That by that time he likes her for her personality not just her looks.
Might happen for a while, but the truth has a habit of catching up with us.
Thing is, most guys of a certain age are realistic in their expectations, we appreciate the effort but don’t expect perfection.
Here’s a thing guys learn as they get older .. that they aren’t perfect either.
It gives a perspective we didn’t have in our younger day, a willingness to accept less than perfect because we aren’t perfect ourselves.
But there’s truth, there’s limits, You either find someone physically attractive or you don’t.
You can’t force attraction.
She gets up in the morning and goes to the bathroom, as she walks round the bed, you open sleepy eyes and watch her move, her breasts jiggle, you subconsciously appreciate her hip to waist ratio even if she is carrying a few extra pounds.
Who wants a skinny chick anyway?
While she’s in the bathroom you awake, you’re cock rising to the occasion, you casually stroke it, feeling the pulse of blood pumping in that thick blue vein.
You’re waiting on her coming back to bed, ready to make love or fuck her brains out quickly between now and the alarm going off.
That either works or it doesn’t.
If it works for you then great, you’re lucky to be in a relationship where you’re appreciated by your man regardless of how you might feel about yourself.
So enjoy it.
The say that time is a great healer but time can be cruel too.
If you happen to be a 40+ year old woman with the body of a girl half your age then you’re very lucky and a very rare exception to the rule.
The article mentioned above.